Georgian sculptor Tamara Kvesitadze created a stunning installation named ‘Man and Woman,’ also known as the ‘Statue of Love.‘ It was installed in 2010 in the seaside city of Batumi, Georgia, in the Middle East.
The sculpture is of two 8 meter (26-foot) tall figures; one man, one woman and made of steel discs. The figures are kinetic. Every day at 7 PM, the massive Man and Woman start to slowly move towards each other until they merge. What happens next may be a clue to the purpose of the Twin Flames journey.
Before reading further, watch the 3-minute video for yourself (time-lapsed). It’s mesmerizing.
Wasn’t that amazing?!
When I watched the video, I smiled and felt I was on the inside of a masterful scheme. It was a moment of epiphany; a clear vision into one possibility of Unionhood (Unionship? Unionness? As we navigate, we are also developing a new language to describe all this amazingness).
Not only a spokeswoman, I am also a client. (Remember the Hair Club for Men commercial from 1986?) That is to say: I champion Twins from a well of personal experience. I am in the trenches alongside you. I am not standing separate and insulated. I get it… from the inside, out.
As one who continues to explore the depth, expansion and emotional intimacy of Twin Flames in my own world, I find myself with an ever-greater understanding of this journey, yet it’s never what I anticipate. EVER.
I have experienced – and seen in my clients – three distinct phases of Twinship:
1. before (to),
2. during (through) and
3. after (beyond)
We are each at different stages along this timeline. Some Twins have yet to meet; they’re in the ‘to.’ Others are actively in it; they’re in the ‘through.’ Yet others in a very small minority, me included, are living the ‘after’; we’re in the ‘beyond.’
Beyond. I deliver this message on a soft pillow because I know it is the LAST thing some Twins want to hear; especially the ones holding the feminine frequency in the connection. It hits the heart in such a raw way that it’s almost unbearable.
What does ‘beyond’ even mean?
I know, I know. After all you’ve been through, you don’t want to hear word one about ‘beyond.’ You want to know that THIS IS IT… forever and always, amen. You don’t even want to think about being beyond the connection because so many of your resources are deeply invested in getting into – and staying in – it.
What if, however, Union is a mere stepping stone to things even MORE amazing than being actively partnered with her/him? What if your divine partnership isn’t the end, but merely a beginning; an impressive and effective way of apprenticing with a master (your Twin) to whisk you into the arms of yet another love, a fulfilling profession, or living head-on with passion because of the influence of your Twin? You know, the one who triggered all your wounds, so you could see them clearly, heal them and live free… beyond your previous conditioning?
So many of us envision(ed) Twinship to be just another version of romance; till death do us part or a Disney fantasy. Yet, we know better. This isn’t the usual relationship construct. Union is the proving ground; the initiation; the apprenticeship. And it’s hard work.
Beyond. I can hear you now… “WHAT? In the end we may not even be together? So I’m doing all this for NOTHING?”
No, you’re not doing it for nothing. You’re doing it for yourself and your purpose-for-being. You’re doing it because you signed up for the scorch-me-quickly-so-I-can-learn-and-move-on plan. You wanted to fast-track-it and baby, that’s precisely what you got!
Union is many things, yet:
Union is not romance.
Union is not guaranteed partnership for life.
Union is rarely what you want – or think – it to be.
Instead it is your great teacher, very similar to all the other constructs you use – or choose – to learn what you came here to learn. In that regard it is no different than the constructs of parenting, traveling or a choosing a specific career path.
Beyond. This revelation isn’t (necessarily) bad news. If you are able to see beyond the self-imposed limitations of what you think this experience can be, should be or what you want it to be, you have every chance of moving beyond it to allow it to become what it was intended to be in full service to your highest interest. For some that will be a lifetime loving partnership involving child-rearing. For others it may reveal as a business collaboration or joint venture to launch a product or service to propel humanity’s evolution. And for others, it may be living completely separate lives as you pour into the world what you extracted from the phases of ‘to’ and ‘through.’
Each connection has its own contract. Twinship has an inherent wisdom that cannot be derailed from its true purpose and fulfilling on its ultimate mission. It isn’t swayed by your flailing, grief or tears. It knows not of jumping tracks for short-term ease or benefit. Like a bullet-train, it simply follows the tracks, not slowing or stopping until reaching its final destination.
There is great love, passion, hope and freedom beyond Union, whether that means being beyond it physically or that you move into greater maturity while still in partnership.
The latter has been my personal experience. As examples: I find that the terminology of ‘Twin Flames’ doesn’t resonate as much as it once did and I function way outside the bounds of my connection even though I am still very much partnered and our emotional intimacy deepens and expands continually.
Something profound has shifted within me in terms of not needing the connection anymore. I am beyond the need. Make sense?
At this point in my experience, being partnered in an everyday capacity is only pure delight. There is no work, only play. I genuinely love every moment of sharing time and yet I know that should our dynamic change and we launch in different directions because that’s what’s inspired, we will do it with an ease that neither of us could have imagined before.
In many ways it feels that our work (the heavy lifting) together has been accomplished. And we truly get to choose what we want to do from here. My Twin and I are having so much fun that it’s fitting to simply enjoy each other for as long as it remains beneficial to both. After that, who knows?
To. Through. Beyond. Blessed be it all.